So I got sent to the dean today for wearing this top. My study tech teacher said that I was “exploiting” myself and that it could be a distraction to the other students. I got up out of my seat and told her that I wasn’t going to listen to her dress codes. In a way, she was being misogynist and slut shaming and I think that’s wrong. I will continue to wear what I want and nobody can tell me not to. The fact that womens bodies are sexualized and objectified so much angers me and that’s the reason why this happened. I’m going to wear what I want, how I want, when I want and that’s it.
I was there, reblog the shit out of this guys
I’m a guy. I can’t wear a shirt like this either, even though I’m not going to be wearing a bra. it’s dress code. It’s not slut shaming. You can’t show your bra like that at most jobs. why should you at school? Yes sexism is wrong and all that, but you can’t get ‘angry at the patriarchy” because you can’t show your undergarments in public. I’m not going to wear jeans with a rip in the side or the front that show off my flowery boxers, because that’s just not appropriate for school. Have some professionalism. You can wear whatever you like at home or with your friends or whatever, yes, but school prepares you for real life.
At work you can’t have this attitude of “I wear the fuck ever I want.” and expect to keep your job. School is the same way because it’s trying to teach you that lesson. That’s unrealistic; almost any job you get is going to have someone tell you what to wear or what to do because you work for them and you represent their company. If you don’t look the way they need you to look, that makes them look bad. A tattoo parlor probably isn’t going to hire someone who dresses like a nun and a top company isn’t going to hire someone who comes to work in a tank top that shows off her bra or a guy that shows off his ballsack.
You can’t blame patriarchy for this, I’m sorry. You can’t blame sexism for this. If I wore booty shorts and you could almost see my balls through my semi transparent flowery goddamn boxers, I would get in the same amount of trouble as you, and it’s within good reason.
Yeah, no supporting this. This is not sexism. This is about someone who didn’t want to follow the dress code and is instead crying sexism.
I have to respectfully disagree. If it had been simply about the shirt being against dress code in general, fine. But the teacher’s note specifically states, “Refuses to cover her bra.” How does that specify that it’s not gender-specific problem, exactly?
And calling what she’s wearing a distraction - who was it distracting, exactly, before the teacher decided to make an issue about it? If it was distracting anybody at all, I sincerely doubt it was another girl. Hence, the whole reason for it is that the teacher was sexualising the outfit, by assuming that a partially exposed bra would render the male population of that class incapable of studying.
And hey you up there, the one that’s all bluh, bluh, I’m a guy, I’d get in trouble, too… do you really want teachers assuming you’re such a dumbass horndog that some girl showing off her bra turns you into nothing more than a walking hard-on? Do you really? Because that’s the assumption they’re making when they tell a girl her outfit is too “distracting.” For fuck’s sake, people, get a damn clue already.
Have you seen the misogyny and slut shaming that goes on in school dress codes, all under the claim that specific clothes are a “distraction” to other students? Google “dress codes and sexism” and then try to tell this person that they’re simply “crying sexism.” In fact, here… I’ll even get you started.
Easy way to test this theory - she could try the outfit without the bra and see if she gets into trouble still. And before everyone dumps on me for “sexism” think about what it would mean for her or for the school if she does (or doesn’t). I’m not recommending she wears that outfit routinely because I assume it would be uncomfortable but if seeing the bra is the problem then that would fix it - a scientific experiment, if you will. I think it’ll turn out to be against the school dress code for everyone and that the proper answer to “why” would be a simple “because that’s how we want it” instead of leaving it to a teacher to try and come up with a justification all by themselves, one that (presumably) highlights their own insecurities.